And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
“When you comin’ home dad?”
“I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son. You know we’ll have a good time then.”
~ Harry Chapin
I heard a story that made me smile. A lawyer in a top Canadian law firm was leaving the office for the day when one of the other associates made a comment about him ducking out early (it was 7:00 pm). He smiled at his colleague and said “The cat’s in the cradle, man – I gotta go.”
You see, this lawyer had small kids and was totally clear on his priorities. He worked hard all day; used his time productively and knew when to call it quits. He was confident in his abilities and not intimidated by his less secure co-workers who felt that the only way to the top is through ‘face’ time. Reflect on your life right now
Are you in alignment with your priorities? What lifetime habits have you established? What kind of role model are you for the people around you? Would you be proud to have your children re-create the life you’re currently living?
It’s essential to reevaluate your choices on a regular basis. I’m all for setting goals and intentions BUT you must also be open to circumstances changing and ‘life’ getting in the way. If you don’t stop to check in with yourself regularly, you may find that you reach the top of your game 20 years from now, only to realize that you were playing on the wrong field the whole time.
A recent McKinsey Quarterly article, “Learning to Let Go: Making Better Exit Decisions,” discusses a psychological bias that can hinder effective decision making, causing people to stay on a path, even if it’s no longer the best option. The ‘sunk cost fallacy’ occurs when one justifies continuing on a path because of the unrecoverable costs invested. The psychologically ‘clean’ way to make a decision is to evaluate a ‘go / no-go’ decision based on current and future feasibility, not simply based on attachment to past investments.
What are you hanging onto in your business or your life? What are the old beliefs you need to get rid of? Are you still pursuing a strategy that’s past its time? What are you attached to? What’s holding you back from being open to new possibilities that surround you?
Consider the different aspects of your life, get real about whether you’re staying on your path simply because you’ve made significant ‘investments’ – whether time, money or emotion. It may be time to let go to make room for the new adventures and opportunities that await you.
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